I am dating a pothead
However, he recently told me that he also smokes pot and gets high almost every night that we are not together. He pays his bills; he is responsible; it appears not to interfere with his job; and he is always very nice to me.All the same pot is illegal,and it really bothers me that he is breaking the law.Then I realized I wanted to better myself and I quite.So it's hard to tell him not to do something I did. I pick it up for him cause I don't want to hear it later when he runs out. I am glad I'm not the only one out there having these problems.He thinks I am trying to take away something that he loves, when in all honesty I don't believe he is healthy mentally or emotionally and I just want the best for him.
Last week we kicked off the column with a general question about women's sexuality. I am 25 and have been dating a thoughtful, attentive and incredibly caring guy for about 5 months now.
He would always rather smoke with someone, but has no problem doing it alone if he "has to".
I feel hurt because it appears that just spending time with me is not enough for him, he is not truly content without smoking. He told me the other day I need to give up wanting and wishing for a husband that doesn't smoke, because he always will and I need to accept it. I used to fight it, we would argue, it got really ugly.
I thought about leaving him for the first time ever.
Now I know I can't change him, if I gave him an ultimatum he might let me go.
Pothead or no pothead, it is way too soon to be planning a walk down the aisle.